It’s true! Although they can be painful, triggers truly are just giving us information about a wound or belief that wants to be healed. Whether you are triggered by your kid’s whining, a messy house, not feeling respected or heard, the list is endless but the trigger is giving you information that something hurts or is off and if you can figure out what it is then you can heal and the trigger goes away.
I do this by giving myself a moment to calm down, take a deep breath, maybe do a pattern interrupt like count by threes or say the alphabet backwards or stretch (this interrupts the intensity of the trigger and it’s relating emotional response in your body so that you can calm down and think clearly).
Then I get curious and ask myself questions to figure out what is really bothering me and why. Once there I validate myself and acknowledge how that perception or drama or belief was created. Sometimes that needs work done too.
Then I ask myself three things that contradict that or what do I want to feel instead? That helps me replace the painful program with the nurturing and helpful one. And the result? Peace, clarity, healing and being able to manage my responses. The book Mind Change by Heather McKean outlines this process. If your triggers are really big I do individual sessions to support you and working through them and healing. ❤️ Learn more at https://www.livingthejoyfullife.com/LIVINGTHEJOYFULLIFE/